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i think it would be neat if netflix doubled as a dating site like “here are 9 other singles in your area that watched supernatural for 12 straight hours”
There are two situations in which it’s okay to ask a visibly-disabled stranger about their medical condition:
If neither of these apply to you, just shut the fuck up.
But… you’re just curious! you’re concerned! you just want to help them! your second cousin is blind and deaf and in a wheelchair!
No. Just no. Shut the fuck up. Chances are, the person has spent months and years of their lives discussing their medical history and conditions with doctors and they don’t want to discuss it with some random stranger on a bus stop. They don’t need to be reminded that they’re different.
Here is when you need to know the specifics of someone’s disability:
Note that this does not include “sharing a bus stop.” Or “being in line at a fast food place.” Or even “working with them.”
I almost definitely do not need your help in a given situation, and if I do, I will ask for it. (Generally this involves the fact that I’m really short and has nothing to do with my “medical condition.”) Do not assume I need help. Do not treat me like I’m some goddamn inspiration for getting out of bed in the morning. Guess what, I probably do almost everything you do in an average day.
I “forget” that I’m disabled until other people point it out, and I really have to wonder, why are you pointing it out? What do you get out of treating me like I’m different than you? Your “curiosity” and “concern” leaves me feeling like you don’t see me as a whole person. That you don’t include me in your group because my “disability” sets me apart. You don’t need to know. So don’t ask.